“You will be too much for some people. Those are not your people.”Glennon Melton
Not too long ago I was giving some training to new project managers. I was presenting tons of information in a very short time period. It was the proverbial “drinking from the fire hose.” To make the decidedly unfun text book information more appealing, I started with a joke. Now, I fully realize that there are infinite personalities and there is no “one size fits all”, however, I personally thought the joke was funny and relevant to my audience. But, just to be on the safe side, and I ran it by a couple of my non-technical, non-coworker friends for feedback before I used it and they agreed it was funny for a corporate setting.
Well, the feedback I received from my audience was less than friendly. I am perfectly willing to accept that it wasn’t funny or that I was terrible in the delivery. Either way, the written comment “your joke was not funny” made it very clear that I did not connect with them. That said, it very likely could have been my audience (a room full of engineers). This is not my first time trying to lighten the mood at work by experimenting with new ways of interacting and expanding my social skills on my journey of manly self-improvement and, yet, I receive negative feedback. This is the place that I admit I operated like my coworkers (the engineers) for a significant majority of my life. Then I woke up and decided that life is quite enjoyable. This new way of operating has also apparently landed me on the “bad boy” list in certain circles of senior management (at least that is what I have been told off the record). Let me explain just a bit more. I have decided that I will be me and I will enjoy myself, and I will speak up when things don’t seem right and I will expose truth.
It has occurred to me that as I intentionally grow, I am outgrowing my work environment. I was probably at the right place 5 years ago, but, as I have opened my eyes to a new reality and change my belief systems and a new, uncompromising way of operating, it is becoming evident that I am not surrounded by the people that appreciate an edge. I put myself in an environment that doesn’t encourage risk, has little appreciation for the harsh truth, does not have a sense of humor, and DOES NOT VALUE me. As I rub coworkers and leadership the wrong way and dig holes for myself, I have realized that these are not my people. This is not the tribe I should be a part of. As my values in life change from competent technical ability to the way of a superior man and masculine leadership, I no longer fit into this tribe. And that is OK. There is another tribe out there for me.
I am in search of a new tribe.
I am in search of a tribe of men that are interested in living at their edge. I am interested in a tribe of men that are in search of their true purpose. I am in search of a tribe of men that are looking for the answers to the masculine way of life. I am searching for men that know deep in their soul that they were put on this Earth to live and love in the best life they can create. I am searching for men that are tired of compromising who they are for a dollar. I am searching for a tribe of men that are willing to go after what they want no matter the consequences. I am in search of a tribe of men that push toward their best everyday and know that the most valuable teacher is failure.
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My cohort for this blog has given me feedback that the article should include the joke, so here goes:
A new graduate engineer is in his first job interview with the HR manager (coincidence) and the interview is going well. The HR manager asks the new engineer what kind of salary he is looking for. The engineer says “somewhere around $100,000.” The HR manager pauses and then says “tell you what, how about we start you at $250,000, give you a corner office, 50% matching on your 401(k), a 50% bonus, and a company car. A Mercedes…..a red one.” The engineer says “wow, are you joking?” and the HR manager says “Yes, but you started it.”