We live in a generation of emotionally weak people. Everything has to be watered down, including the truth.Unknown
Toxic masculinity. That is a very divisive term. It’s seems like our world has decided that these two words are mutually inclusive and for some reason very few push back against it. Why does masculinity offend segments of our society? Why do these segments get to decide for the rest of us that masculinity is toxic?
To understand how masculinity got hijacked, we have to look back in history. Before the 1960’s, the largely held traditional core beliefs of masculinity were that of power, command, control, dominance. Then the 1960’s came and with it an era of revolution against the Establishment fueled by hatred of the Vietnam War and the hippie movement of drug use and free love. Power and control were loathed as feminists raged against male dominance. Baby-boomer young men were questioning their heritage and deciding they were not going to be like their fathers. The feminist movement exploited the guilty male psyche which made way for a softer, more expressive, feminine male.
The 70’s and 80’s saw the male role model go to work for 10+ hours a day in the industrial complex and all but abandon the impressionable boys at home, left to be raised by their mothers and the predominantly female teachers in the schools who were woefully inadequate to teach young boys how to be men. The feminist machine exacerbated this phenomenon by “empowering” the young women while also demonizing the “man” and masculine traits as “scary” and “bad”. So the indoctrination continued into the feminine way which led to the rise of the “nice guy.” Feminism took massive control of the male species and we all just accepted it. It became the norm for a male to be feminine. It became ok for a man to be emotional. Any man that spoke otherwise was made into a angry, narrow-minded, uneducated simpleton by the media, including the Christian churches that spoke of male leadership, both proper and improper.
By the time the 2010’s arrived, we had two generations completely indoctrinated (Gen X and Millenials) in to the way of the feminine. We have created two generations of weak, inept men. Men that believe it is ok to be emotional. Men believe it is ok to be sensitive. Men that believe it is strong to express your feelings. Men that default to woman’s lead in the home and believe any type of assertiveness or healthy male sexuality is wrong.
Now, let me be clear, we HAVE come a long way since the 1950’s. The sins of our fathers left deep scars. I am not saying to not have emotions. Far from it. Nobody wants to marry a robot. It IS healthy to feel your emotions. What I am saying is that is NOT ok for a man to BE sensitive and emotional. It is not ok for a man to let his emotions control his behavior. It is not ok for him to get “triggered.” Allowing your feelings to control your behavior unchecked, IS weak and unwise. Proverbs 25:28 tells us “A man without self control is like a city broken into and left without walls.” In other words, it is NOT manly to be sensitive and emotional about everything and it is definitely NOT attractive to the opposite sex because, unlike the city with walls, it is not strong. It cannot hold off the enemy. Wanna instantly kill female attraction toward you? Be sensitive and emotional.